It might seem strange to consider that our soul is an inner activity where our feeling, thinking and will (intentions) play out. These three interact with each other in many and various ways. So that we can become more aware of this activity it is better to try and observe each one in isolation as far as that is possible so that we can so that we can be more aware of how they work in us.
It is worth pointing out here that if a person is unable to feel, or feel fully, this can point to a disconnectedness of soul. This can be the case in autism or when a person is experiencing trauma or grief.
So while it is strange to consider that our soul is an inner activity it is not so strange to consider that our soul is often dominated by feeling. Feeling is our guide, and feelings also need to be guided. Feeling could be compared to a body of water that can flow in various directions and if it isn’t guided it can cause flooding.
So what are feelings? We experience feeling in response to external sensations or impressions. These feelings arise when we physically touch something or when we encounter non-physical emotional responses. We feel cold and warmth, we feel love and hate, we feel sad or happy, we feel fulfilled or unfulfilled and so on. Notice that each of these feelings is opposite each other on a spectrum. Now let’s practice guiding the feelings you have identified. Take each statement one at a time and apply the following process.
• Recall the situation and the feeling you experienced.
• Allow yourself to fully experience the feeling without expressing it or repressing it – just be with it.
• Name the feeling you are experiencing, if you are able to.
• Ask yourself why you are experiencing this feeling. Observe what is happening around you. Where are you? Who is near you? How are you and others behaving?
• Identify thoughts associated with this feeling.
• Take responsibility for your feelings.
Begin with “I felt…..” rather than with “He/she/it made me feel…….”